By Jeff Moser
I was 14 years old when I got my first cell phone, and even though I spent much more time than I should have playing games, I never really got into texting. In fact, it wasn’t until I started my first full-time job at 22 years old that I finally decided to add texting to my service plan. For whatever reason, I was never interested in the immediate delivery of information or the convenience of digital conversation.
However, now that I’ve succumbed to technology, the biggest question (in my opinion) is how to redeem and leverage it for good. In other words, we’ve never been able to communicate so quickly or spread information at such a rapid pace, but the potential danger to offend, misinterpret, or hurt another person’s feelings has never been greater either.
Thus, the question becomes: Is there a way to love, encourage, and uplift the people around us using technology? How about for our spouse?
My wife Erin and I have recently started answering this question by sending a brief text message to one another that simply reads, “I love you because ______.” We fill in the blank with whatever comes to mind in that moment. It could be anything from, “I love you because you did the dishes without me asking” to, “I love you because you’ve been so supportive of me in my new job this week.”
Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.”
I’ve read that verse numerous times before, and maybe you have as well, but I’m just now realizing the enormous weight of its words. It is a big challenge to have everything we say be good, helpful, and encouraging; but it is a challenge that has extraordinary potential to love our spouse well.
Do I remember to send an “I love you because…” text every single day? No. In fact, I’ve forgotten and missed days (and weeks) at a time. However, as I slow down the pace of my day and take a moment to remember how much I love my wife and purposefully let her know, I am confident that I am a better husband and friend as a result.
Jeff Moser has been a worship leader at Eagle Brook Church since September 2011. He and his wife of two and a half years, Erin, along with their dog, Lola, live in Coon Rapids. He tweets every so often @jeffrey_moser and blogs even less at jeffreymoser.wordpress.com